October 25, 2004

Steaming the carpets

My wife arrived home last night after spending the weekend at her parents. She is always in an extra argumentative mood whenever she gets back from there.

I let here know that I had a special meeting today and that I would have to leave for work about 5 hours earlier than I normally do. I also let her know that I wanted to be in bed no later than 10:00. Her response (at around 9:30 that night) was that she wanted me to help her move everything out of the the kitchen so that she could steam the carpets. I did so, and went to bed at about 10:30.

She had a fit. She expected me to stay up to put everything back when she was done. I told her that I had to get to bed. She felt that since I usually do not go to bed that early, that there was no reason that I should go to bed at that time last night either. Instead of steaming the carpets, she came upstairs into the bedroom, turned on the TV as loud as it would go, turned on all the lights and started banging on the door to keep me awake.

Next, she gave my daughter a book and told her to ask me to read it to her. I tried to explain to my three year old daughter that it was time for bed. But my daughter is now so engrained in my wife's ways of not going to bed until 3:00 or 4:00 in the morning, that there was no telling her "no". She threw a temper tantrum until I read her the book.

After reading the book to my daughter, and realizing that there was no way I was going to get a good night's rest anyway, I got out of bed and went looking for my wife. My wife was busy looking at a web site called stay or go.com. My wife informed me that she was going to leave me because I "never do anything around here".

Just as a side note, one of the things I found very interesting about stayorgo.com was their money back guarantee. In other words, if it turns out that they have given horrible advice and have ruined your life forever, they promise to refund the cost of the book they want you to buy. What a comfort.

Anyway, I had a talk with my wife. I told her that I was getting really irritated with her threatening to leave every time she didn't get everything she wanted. Her response was that she does plan on leaving, she just doesn't know when. I told her to "get off the fence". She needs to either leave or commit to working on things. Her response was "my name is on this house too".

That really made me mad (though I didn't let her know that). Basically she's telling me that she's using me. She has no problem living here in this house and insisting that I buy her expensive new things, but at the same time she wants no part of me. She's living here, but taking no part of the marriage. It makes me mad because I don't work that way. It isn't in me to just turn my back on her and ignore her the way she does me, even though I know she is using me.

Well... to conclude.. after all of this, I ended up steaming the carpets in the kitchen prior to putting all the furniture back and then going to bed. Horray for no sleep. Now I'm off for my day where I will constantly be behind schedule for about 2 hours for the rest of the day. There's no use complaining about it, I'm sure my wife would only tell me that its my fault for not going to bed earlier.

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